Well I'm not so sure if anyone will read this.
Looks like this place has been dead for a while.
Than again school is starting back up soon so maybe someone will read it.
I'm just interested to see if people think that if they really loved someone they would they be able to date the day after an engagement was broken off.
Time for another poll
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Time for another poll
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What do you mean "you need to know what people think on this"?
I mean, it seems pretty much common sense to me. If you are engaged to someone, break off the engagement, and date someone the next day, it's tacky. It arouses the suspicious that you were unfaithful during the engagement, or perhaps don't have the emotional maturity to break off a relationship without lapsing into a "rebound" in which you date others just for the comfort of someone being there. It also displays a blatant insensitivity to your former fiance.
Tacky, immature, and insensitive. I don't think much more needs to be said.
I mean, it seems pretty much common sense to me. If you are engaged to someone, break off the engagement, and date someone the next day, it's tacky. It arouses the suspicious that you were unfaithful during the engagement, or perhaps don't have the emotional maturity to break off a relationship without lapsing into a "rebound" in which you date others just for the comfort of someone being there. It also displays a blatant insensitivity to your former fiance.
Tacky, immature, and insensitive. I don't think much more needs to be said.
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Example 1: I go on a few dates with a girl, but nothing serious happens. She's very interested in me and would like something more serious. We talk about it and I say I'm not really interested in anything like that with her, and just enjoy hanging out with her but am not romantically interested and she finds out I went out with another girl the next day.
It probably still hurts a little, probably not the best thing for me to have done since we did go out more than a few times, but I didn't really do anything wrong. We never discussed it, and when we did I said that that wasn't what this relationship was for me.
Maybe I was a little insensitive - but guys are dumb and we can do that stuff. I just wasn't thinking about what she was thinking, but I didn't really do anything wrong.
Example 2: I'm in a committed relationship with a person for a couple of years, maybe even engaged. For arguments sake even to give me the benefit of the doubt, let's say she dumped me. The next day, I'm already dating another girl. Obviously - I wasn't that committed. It apparently didn't bother me at all. Even though she's the one that broke it off, she's most likely not seeing anyone else yet either. Now, apparently I already had someone on the side, or even if I didn't , losing my girlfriend didn't bother me at all, so I obviously didn't really care.
I think that's more what people mean when they say it depends on the person and the situation. You really do have to elaborate more when you're wanting input. I mean, it even is possible that it's not really dating and she was just a friend all along, but if you were in such a long term committed relationship, shouldn't you have at least heard of her? My room mates even have at least *HEARD* of all my friends that I might be out doing things with, especially the ones close enough to be the ones I seek after ending a long term relationship. They've even heard of the women at work that I don't and wouldn't do anything with outside of work if I talk to them enough that we might have lunch during work without the rest of our project team.
So the question is which one of these examples more accurately represents the situation?
It probably still hurts a little, probably not the best thing for me to have done since we did go out more than a few times, but I didn't really do anything wrong. We never discussed it, and when we did I said that that wasn't what this relationship was for me.
Maybe I was a little insensitive - but guys are dumb and we can do that stuff. I just wasn't thinking about what she was thinking, but I didn't really do anything wrong.
Example 2: I'm in a committed relationship with a person for a couple of years, maybe even engaged. For arguments sake even to give me the benefit of the doubt, let's say she dumped me. The next day, I'm already dating another girl. Obviously - I wasn't that committed. It apparently didn't bother me at all. Even though she's the one that broke it off, she's most likely not seeing anyone else yet either. Now, apparently I already had someone on the side, or even if I didn't , losing my girlfriend didn't bother me at all, so I obviously didn't really care.
I think that's more what people mean when they say it depends on the person and the situation. You really do have to elaborate more when you're wanting input. I mean, it even is possible that it's not really dating and she was just a friend all along, but if you were in such a long term committed relationship, shouldn't you have at least heard of her? My room mates even have at least *HEARD* of all my friends that I might be out doing things with, especially the ones close enough to be the ones I seek after ending a long term relationship. They've even heard of the women at work that I don't and wouldn't do anything with outside of work if I talk to them enough that we might have lunch during work without the rest of our project team.
So the question is which one of these examples more accurately represents the situation?
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Example two. Accept, it was kinda sorta mutual, neither of us really wanted to break anything off, we just got tired of fighting. Honestly, I was ready to keep talking and trying to fix things when he said that he felt we should seperate. The next day he hangs out with another girl and for the last 3 weeks after breaking things off has seen her pretty much every day. He mentioned her once inthe lastweek that we were together. Most everyone I talk to tells me that he was planning everything and wanted to date her before we broke things off. One or two other people said that it was prolly just a strange situation and there was prolly nothing going on before hand. I just want to know out in the normal world what people thing. Where I am right now people think a little differently than back in Missouri. I'm just wanting to see what the thoughts are.
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